Don't get stuck

So you're divorced/separated? Does this mean no more fun, no activity, no more make-up and interaction with others?

A big NO!! Life has to go on with or without the person who left you or you decided to leave. It has to go on with right choices and sound decisions. You must continue with your life constructively, you should not be proving a point to anyone but live and be lively. Remember that God has a plan for you, as an individual? So that plan must continue or be discovered in case you had not discovered it, because maybe you were living under someone's shadow. You may have been so submissive and supportive that you ended up living someone else's dream not yours.

This is the time to rise up and do what you were called here on earth to fulfill. What you are going through is another phase of what you should be testifying about in the future, another chapter to your book, another stanza in your poem or song. In pain we grow, in sorrow we are shaped and sharpened. This season is not here to break you but to equip for the next level, to make you a better person for the lives you are called for. 

Rise up from the ashes. Stand up when you feel like sleeping all day. Get some exercise when you feel like burying your face under the pillow. Eat well, balanced diet, because the soul needs a healthy body to thrive. Interact with people who infuse energy, love and life in your spirit because a cheerful heart is medicine to the body. Don't spend your whole time crying, complaining and mourning. I'm not suggesting that you be in denial, to everything there is a season - Ecclesiastes 3:1-8

Get out of that house, you will not hide forever, at some point you need to face those who are rejoicing because of your pain. The devil's gotta see that he hasn't won nor is he about to win. The enemy must know that you're not out of the ring, the fight is not over until you win. Depression has to realise that it got the wrong location and it has to start looking for a new address.

It is okay to change your look, if you can. It is okay to try new things. It is okay to meet new people and learn a new language. Enrol for some course, programme or degree. Just do something that will enhance your look and your knowledge. Be empowered because you are being prepared to empower others.