Remarriage

So you've been divorced and you believe you have healed? How do you know you're healed? Have you forgiven? Are you able to stay in a conversation where the ex's name is mentioned and you don't react negatively? Have you identified your areas of weakness in the relationship? The things you need to work on for your improvement and healthier relations elsewhere? Have you worked on them? If you are like me you need the grace from God. 

I am interested in knowing how you know you have healed from the divorce - please share your answers to the question above. 

What does the word of God say about remarriage? There are various scriptures which are usually quoted; 1 Corinthians 7:39 and Matthew 5:31-32 are some of the scriputures quoted when the topic of remarriage is discussed. The last part of verse 32 in Matthew 5 says "anyone who marries a divorced woman commits adultery" and 1 Corinthians 7:39 says "a wife is bound to her husband for as long as he live, when he dies she is free to marry anyone she wishes, but only of He loves the Lord". 

The above, in my view, are the laws which were applicable to those nations at the time. I don't believe God says once you are divorced, especially as woman, then you cannot remarry until the ex has died. Otherwise people would be praying wrong prayers. We will talk more about the two scripture references above in the next blog. At the moment I want to share my advices with those who care to listen:

1. Research your family background where marriage is concerned. What are the patterns you observe from both sides of the family: parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles, siblings etc? When i did this research about my family I remembered that my paternal grandmother was deserted by my grandfather, I don't know the whole story. My mother was my father's second marriage and my half sister from my father's first marriage got divorced then me. In addition most of my aunts from my father's side (his cousins) are divorced. I can count them with both hands.

2. Should you, like in my case, pick up a pattern of divorce going back on either side of the family then your first step is to pray for that spirit/curse to be broken over your life and lives of your offspring. The bondage must break NOW and not carry forward.

3. It is critical for the curse (pattern) to be broken because you may remarry only to get divorced again because the curse is still active and follows you wherever you go. It may not be because you have no love or you are unalovable. It has nothing to do whether you can keep a man or not. It is a spiritual issue that requires divine intervention from God.

According to Elisha Goodman "a curse is an evil spiritual energy originated through verbal pronouncements. It is a satsnic mandate given to evil powers to attack and destroy a person, place or thing. A counter force that fights blessings"

4. In order to be able to break off from such patterns you need to be engaged in prayers that are speficically targeted at breaking such. Get involved in a Bible-based church which believes in God's power of deliverance through nothing but the Blood and the Name of Jesus. 

5. Your prayer strategies, to deal with this matter, must involve fasting; prayer and living a life of holiness. The afore require a session to unpack them, however I advice that you visit www.firespringsministries.com for detailed and spirit-filled teachings on the subject matter. In addition, find more teachings on the subject of deliverance. Becareful not to fall into a trap of fake ministers of the Gospel/pastors/prophets who will demand money from you, transfer spirits upon your life and even sleep with you.

6. If you are a born again child of God, baptised in the Holy Spirit, then inquire with the Holy Spirit concerning this matter in your bloodline. The Bible says "the Holy Spirit will teach us all things...." I pray that God may lead you with His peace as you seek His face concerning this matter.

Don't forget to give your answers the questions I posed earlier. You can send them to yalekilesphezulu@gmail.com or if you are subscriber send your reply on the comments section. 

In and through God we heal,

Love - God's special Girl.