What God has put together……

When talking about marriage and divorce, Jesus said: "This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one. Since they are no longer two but one, let no one split apart what God has joined together" Matthew 19:5-6 (New Living Translation).

There could be  marriages where God did not join the two together. At times people get married out of an obligation e.g. while dating the woman gets pregnant and families decide that the two should be married. In other instances the man decides to marry the woman because he doesn't want his child to grow up without a father or be raised by another man. I know of similar circumstances where the marriages have stood all tests and the couples are still together. 

In some instances it is not a question of pregnancy but people falling in love with a personality and forget to check the character. In addition there are instances where people are unequally yoked in marriage. Usually done in the name of "no one is perfect" or "I will pray for him/her, there's nothing God cannot do" and sometimes people marry because of their burning desire for sex. 

Most of these types of marriages are headed for a collapse, especially if the people involved are immature and did not take time to understand the person they plan to commit to. I'm not implying that the ones who are put together by God don't end up in turmoil or even divorce. Now the question one should ask themselves if you find yourself separated or divorced: was God in it? Did He put us together? This is important for your journey of healing. You may expect God to speak in a situation where He was not involved from the onset. He may not say anything at all. 

So in my view there are marriages that ended before they even started because the background was not solid. There was no inquiry with the Holy Spirit who is supposed to order our steps. God who is supposed to ordain the union of marriage was invited in the end, to bless the union at the altar. 

One of my favourite quotes by Dr Myles Munroe is "the best time to prevent divorce is before marriage". Now that you have healed and are ready to love again and commit to a long term relationship (marriage), be wise and don't repeat past mistakes. Inquire of the Lord first and not fall in love with the personality. It's the character you will be spending your life with. Does he have a relationship with God? Is the relationship he has with God genuine or it is done to impress you?

You may not have answers to this questions, hence, you need to inquire with the Holy Spirit who is responsible to teach us all things and remind us all this. Take time to inquire of the Lord, any person who genuinely loves you will allow the time you need to seek God's face about a proposal that he has made. 

Please ponder on this and give your thoughts on the topic. I'm interested to hear your analysis and understanding of the scripture quoted above. 

In the next blog, we will look at other scriptures relating to divorce and remarriage. I pray that God may enlighten the eyes of your understanding regarding this matter.