Anger

Anger is one of the states you are most likely to find yourself in, regardless of who initiated the divorce or suggested separation. You could be angry at yourself as well for various reasons including: ignoring red flags before you got married, not listening to advice, not fighting too hard for the relationship, involving too many or wrong people.

You could also be angry at God. You may have done everything right: served Him, you were a submissive wife, you sacrificed everything for the relationship, you prayed and believed that things would be better. You probably were willing to do everything to do anything under the sun to make things work, yet you are here.

You may be angry at your spouse or ex because he didn't do much to save the relationship. He may have decided to do end the relationship without justifiable reasons. He may have shocked you with divorce papers or walked out of the house and told you "it's over". 

You may even be angry at other people whom you believe contributed to the failure of the marriage: in-laws, friends, mistress. 

Healing Tip:

FORGIVE

You probably don't want to hear this but you have to. Forgive yourself first, for anything you believe you didn't do right or could have done. 

Forgive others, you may feel justified to be angry and that these people should ask you for forgiveness not you freely letting go - WRONG: chances of anyone coming to ask for your forgiveness are slim to zero. You may believe that that they must first hear you out before you can entertain any forgiveness.

Prayer Tips:

1. Tell God everything that you are feeling: how angry, disappointed, irritated you are about this and the other. Be honest to Him about how you feel. Speaking to God is the safest way, what you say to Him will never be heard by others. 

2. Pray for the ones who have hurt you. Ask God to help you and give you the grace to do His will of forgiving others. Some of these people don't deserve to be mentioned in your prayers according to your standards but God says "Pray for those persecute you, bless do not curse" Matthew 5:44

3. Pray for your children, if you have any, they are probably picking the vibe from you. They may also be angry but not able to express themselves. If they are separated from you, pray even more for them not to be influenced negatively against you. 

You will not be able forgive anyone by yourself because you are hurting. It is only God that can help you if you are willing.