Rejection

During this season of your life you are most likely to feel rejected and experience actual rejection. You feel rejected because the person whom you loved the most and had vowed to live with forever has left you, kicked you out or has become absent from your life while physically present. 

You may also be rejected by friends and family, especially if you initiated the divorce or if others believe that you are the only guilty party (more about this on another topic) to the situation. Some would have heard this and that about you, they believe it and they reject you right away because of what they "know" of you. They may not even give you a chance to hear your side of the story, which is really not necessary in my view. They would not want to put themselves in your shoes or give you the benefit of doubt. 

This is the probably where you feel so alone and unloved. Your own family may reject you; the people you so long for their love, embrace and support. The friends you believe will be there for you may actually want to distance themselves because "you are a risk to their reputation" or you are viewed as "bad influence" by their spouses if they are married. Rejection may also be from the church, doesn't matter what denomination, this is very common. You know that God hates divorce right? And you may be viewed by Christians as a sinner because you are doing this thing which God hates. I suppose in other people's standards  everyone can lie, gossip, steal etc and they are still loved by God but not someone who is getting divorced (by choice or force). 

Well I have news for them and you, in case you doubt God's love for you, from the book of Isaiah 54:10 "Though the mountains be shaken and the hills be removed, yet my unfailing love for you will not be shaken nor my covenant of peace be removed" that is God right there. I am not in anyway promoting divorce, it is painful and I don't wish on anyone but it happens and has happened. It is likely to still happen to others for various reasons but I just want those who are affected (getting divorced or already divorced) to know that you are as precious to God as you were when you were a second old here on earth. He knew you before you were formed in your mother's womb. 

Healing Tip:

At this point in your life I would suggest that you don't try to get everyone to know your version or to understand you. Trying to prove that you are not wrong might make the situation even worse for you emotionally because not everyone who seems to be concerned about you is genuine. You don't owe anyone an explanation other than the people whom you know love you uncontitionally and those you account to for your life - spritually or otherwise. In my case it was my mother, my elder sister and my pastors. 

I learned with my experience that the more I tried to explain I would be hurting myself even more because someone would reply "but so and so said this and the other" - I realised that there are people who are determined to get as much information as possible from everyone they have access to just to share with anyone who is interested and be "relevant" when the topic is discussed.

Prayer Tip:

At this point you may not even feel like praying because you had already prayed for the relationship to be restored and yet you are here. Or you have never prayed in your life before and don't believe that prayer can make a difference. I believe that it is in our lowest moments that we really need to draw closer to God. He is my Hope and has always been. I wouldn't have made it through this dark moment of my life without Him and I would urge you to try Him. Consider the following tips and also follow the guidance of the Holy Spirit if you have a relationship with Him:

1. Ask God to help you embrace the season you are in and to open the eyes of your understanding so you can discern who is meant for your support in thi journey. You are vulnerable and it is easy to believe that everyone who extends a hand has an intention to help.

2. Read relevant Bible scriptures that affirm you of God's love and meditate on them. Speak these words over your life and personalise them, confess them until you believe them.

3. Also read about people in the Bible who experienced rejection. David is one of them, in the Books of 1st and 2nd Samuel (old testament), he was on the run for his life because Saul was after him. Later his own son took over his kingdom and wanted David dead. We know about Joseph who was rejected by his brothers and sold him to become a slave - Genesis 37. These are examples of people who were rejected and oh boy did God not elevate them?

The devil is after your destiny, do not give in. Press on no matter what it takes. Remember that you are "God's Special Girl"